A baby is born, in most cases: there is so much excitement all around!
So much of fun frolic & masti!
So much of festivities, partying, days on end Mithaiiyon ki bharmar, Rishtey-darron ka roz jana aur aana, just doesn’t seem to end!!
Jo Ameer hain, unke celebrations to khatam he nahi hotey, par Gareeb bhi is Khushi se wanchit kyun raheyin?
Unke ghar aangan me bhi patakhey, Phuljudiyyan, rang birangey lights, aur 3 se 4din ka khoob khana peena chalta rehta hai!!
Agar Udhhar bhi lena padey to bhi jaayaaz hai!!!!
Yeh to paida honey pe hota hai.
Dheerey dheerey, jaise waqt aagey badta hai, jaise bacha bada hota
hai,normal zindagi apne zoron pe aa jati hai.
Mard apne dafter/ dukaan pe chala jata hai, aur biwi bacche ki dekh rekh ke saath saath ghar ke kaam me vyast ho jati hai.These days the semi-literate/ literate/ ambitious females also want to get back to work;again each to meet their own agendas
Issi ka naam hai Zindagi. Zindagi jeene padti hai
Par yes,har waqt yeh khushiyaan barkaraar nahi rehti hain.
Whether we focus on child birth, child rearing, family building, own career, our professional climb; be it relationship building, interactions with so many members of the family, be it immediate family members, or extended family; relating with spouse and/or children; or working with colleague’s, managing your persona with bosses and working community; trying to grow up onyour own definite/ indefinite goals!!!!
The various facets, and so many more,
ARE THEY NOT FRAUGHT WITH TENSIONS, TURMOILS, UNCERTAINITIES?
DO THEY NOT AFFECT THE DAY TO DAY FUNCTIONING OF OUR LIVES?
THERE IS SO MUCH HAPPENING—-
HOW TO MANAGE IT AND LEAD A CONGENIAL LIFE?????
While on one side, we are happy and excited, many a times, there are innumerable times when we are not!!
What is the root cause of it all?
If I write a few, you all – My friends, will write many more. Practically most reasons stem from personal experiences, many learn fromexperiences of others (be it within the family or without).
In this digital media, several put forward their stories: Many may be real, yet most may be fictional. We, who listen to audio/ video telecasts/ read a lot, also tend at times to get swayed by these podcasts!(Well, that’s the intent of the Podcasts -RIGHT!!!)
Yet, we do have a mind and a mood, and we should learn to analyse what is seen/read/ heard, and then research, and then we may sway / deter from such advice.
Ours is a very religious,God fearingcountry. We are 99% religious, pray to the Almighty for health/ wealth/ happiness and all that worldlygifts life lays down n out before us.
We turn to the Almighty,we pray almost every day. Many have many a requests from the Almighty.
We especially pray a lot harder when weare in troubleand feel we are incapable of managing the situation and beseech the Almighty to show us the path, get us out of the current predicament, and lead us to calmer waters!!!
Chalo: lets analyse some aspects of this complexed LIFE
Some things are in our control, but most are not!!
Traumatic experience during childhood; such as abuse/neglect can lead to complex emotional behavioural problems in adulthood.
We need to break free of our fearsand understand that there are things in our life that are beyond our control.
Once u accept it, then, we can then learn to navigate our ways, slowly our outlook will also improve andthings will get less complicated.
So finally its ACCEPTANCE!!!
Embracing the complexityof life means accepting both the gray, the black & the white parts of life–finding a meaning and purpose in the midst of uncertainty and cultivating gratitude and compassion in the face of impermanence.
Ultimately the true essence of life lies not in the destination, but in thejourney.
SO…
What are the complexities in life?
Let’s try to analyse….
When you fail to handle the mental demands; Normally you will find complexities in your path to development. To handle thecomplexity you will necessitate simplicity: Thats why life is also known as SIMPLY COMPLEX.
Dealing alone with only COMPLEXITY can never be the only answer–
We as humans have to face day to day struggles, hoping that soon everything will be fine.
Overcommitting, clutter, disorganisation. Trying to control everything; unrealistic expectations, poor time management.
On one side of the scale/paradigm……. Life is inexplicably beautifulwith indescribable joy, but on the other hand, it also holds extremely draining situations!
Things like grief, loss, rage, unfairness and unequality if they get surmounted unexpectedly or you brood so much that you allow such sentiments to get the better of you,
Friends; Life can be PURE HELL!!!!!!!!!!!!
Life is a struggle.If you are out to better yourself or the people around you,If you want to improve your position & station, in more than one aspect: You want to improve financial position, you want to improve socially, structurally, you do have some goals n targets. Goals are normally taken as Short-term/Midterm/ long term goals(another whole some topic for yet another time and space!!)
If goals are very big, and you want them done as soon as possible, there is Complexity and tension.
But if you can reason out with yourself, research out pros n cons, discuss with seniors /peers/mentors(Be it friends/relatives/parents/teachers),maybeyou get some solace–
Set a Time Line and then strategizeand move with measured steps with proper, active and positivesteps,but keeping the legality in mind___ success will be assured!!!
If you talk of emotional complexities:::
The brain is only 1200/1500 grams (female and male respectively). But have u seen a photo of the brain?? Its so convoluted, so many furrows n burrows.
Like-wise our mind gets easily entrapped into dilemmas, permutations n combination of the mind, and gets all boxed n foxed!!!
If you start comparing and equating with others, pick up tension that XYZee is doing a better job than you, has more than one house/car(which u own), naturally you will get into complexities of the mind!!!
If a tragedy has befallen you, be it physical,mental, or social: There can be ostracization, character assassination, inflictions on your character and persona, anxiety—->depression—-> tensions—-> turmoil—-> again another ready path for more complexities in life!!!
Then relatability within the immediate family:
You are young, dynamic-just married; Carry a vision, nurture a vision, want to accommodate people and things, in your growth, but at times are so ambitious, so adventurous, that you may take a quick leap and bound, may skip/evade, jump legalities to achieve your own personal goal. This may lead to inter personal mental conflicts, be it with own parental family; be it with spouse or inlaws, be it with siblings.
If no one is ready to adjust, accommodate, to your perspectives and ideologies, you may again have complexities!!!
You are middle age, family is growing up, your kids have their own demands, the wife has her own requirements, your parents need to be accommodated financially and/or socially, you are notready, cannot meet upto each and every ones expectations—again complexities
You are near retirement, have for whatever reasons, not been able to manage situations /grow financially/ and meeting up with requirements of the family.You feel, you have not been successful in life; do not have/own a home as yet, have to marry of your daughter>>>>this is again an insurmountable tension!!!
Now lean back, You are retired!!!!
Getting frail in health, feebler in the pocket, kids do not have time for you,>>> You need attention-
You want time from them (Youalready can fend for yourself financially)
Again Life is so so very very complex
To Fir Kyaaa kareyin????
Suggestions if any!!
So much can be said/ written/ heard about WHY IS LIFE SO COMPLEX??
Human nature?
Challenges in your life?
Our own actions?
I’m now almost 70 years old. I’ve had my lot of experiences. Some Good, some bad, a few ugly.
There have been moments of elation/ depression/indifference/couldn’t care less/and many a more ways at emoting to these incidents!!
Have I been happy?
Has life treated me with consideration/calm/quietness/happiness????
Does life treat Us or Do we treat–LIFE?
Do we plan properly so that our life is not so complexed?
Or do we just drift along?
Well
Well
Well!!
I now wish to open the A PANDORAS BOX!!!
I started writing on “THIS IS LIFE—-“
COVERED SOME 22 EPISODES,
TRIED TO FURNISH A FEW OF MY OBSERVATIONS, AND INTERSPERCED THEM WITH SOME EXPERIENCES OF MY OWN.
Next: Since my passion lies in trying out recipes and giving them a TWIST– recently started my cookery blog!!!
It will have insights into simple,but quick cooking, layered with my twists to curate new tastes,and I will be adding my gratitude to all those who helped me and encouraged me in my journey…of exploring newer taste to simple recipes!!!
But my inner self also wanted me to get back to the pertinent issue of
WHY IS LIFE SO COMPLEX?
“IS UD-HED BUN KI ZINDAGI MEIN,
IS UD–HED BUN KI ZINDAGI MEIN”–
Jahan, dukh, dard, gussa, dwesh, bhara pada hai—-
Aaow mil kar is ka dana bun leyein, aaow is makkad jaal ko samjhey
Bacchpan se lekar aakhri samay tak—
Bacchpan se lekar aakhiri samay tak–
Kuch dil ko choo- lene wale waakyaat dekheyein
Samjheyin, ki zindagi kyunjo itni haseen ho sakti thi, kaanton se jaddii hui hai–
Kyun sab kuch kar leney ke baad bhi sukoon nahi milta???
Wajah kya hai? Kyun man hamesha haiirran pareshaan rehta hai,
Kyun parchaiyeeyon ke peeche dautarehta hai?
Is it EGO?
Is it Cut throatism?
Is it Competition?
Is it Peer Pressure??
Starting a new series of episodes—What goes wrong, and why?
Beginning next week on yet another topic:-Complexities of life!!!
Going to pour out my heart of (60 years of my experiences that I havegathered from my life along with tales, incidents and stories as told by friends/comrades/colleague’s/and relatives and lots and lots from social media /TV etc. from where I’ve gained substantial material to write a BOOK
Please wait… I am coming back soon…
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