COMPLEXITY-29

INTERPRETATION-So lets interpret –Adolescents…cheeze kya hain???

PART-E

Finally

 I would like to say—Adolescents are a bundle of energy. They exhibit a varied no of colours, carry a no of emotions within themselves. ..Which emotion they will exhibit will depend upon age/ sex/ and the exposure they are facing.
Let try and analyse some of their qualities, and lets to a A-Z interpretation on them—-

The A to Z of ADOLSCENTS >>>>>>>>

A-Z	ADJECTIVES
A	Action Packed Adolescents
B	Bewitching …………..do……
C	Confusing …………..do……..
D	Delightful…………….do…….
E	Exhilarating…………..do……
F	Frightful…………………do…..
G	Groovy……………………do….
H	Hilarious………………….do….
I	Interesting…………………do…
J	Jubilating…………………..do…
K	Kaleidoscopic………………do…
L	Lucrative………………………do…
M	Momentous………………..do…..
N	Naïve…………………………..do….
O	Opportunistic…………………….do…
P	Proactive………………………do…
Q	Quixotic………………………..do..
R	Romantic………………………do..
S	Stimulating…………………..do….
T	Titillating……………………..do….
U	Unique…………………………do…
V	Vibrating/Vulnerable………do…
W	Wonderful……………………..do…
X	Xciting…………………………..do…
Y	Youthful…………………………do…
Z	Zinging……………………………do….

ANALYSIS AND INTERPRETATION OF PSYCHE OF ADOLSCENTS

Adolescent is actually a period of temporary insanity as I have explained earlier.

The biological changes>>> physiological changes>>>> which many a time lead to psychological changes. These are actually of greater significance.

They can come and present in many forms, from the mildest confusions to major upheavals in the mind that may lead to situations that will gain great significance if not handled well. Turbulence in the mind may lead to frustration n havoc, the long term effects of which can be deleterious , not only to the individual so also to the family n community at large.

Lets have a look at the table drawn below: some features observed before the onset of “Adolescent” and their taking a twist n turn and presenting in diverse forms after the “ Adolescence “ sets in.

PRE ADOLESCENCE PHASE	POST ADOLESCENCE PHASE
1.Very good in academics	1.Sudden drop in performance in school academics esp.
2.Very obedient	2.Shrugs obedience
3.Doesnot take special interest in clothes	3.Takes special interest in clothes n turn out
4.Very confident	4.Loses confidence on many an occasion
5. Always took interest in activities around the house.	5. Now doesn’t take interest in activities inside home / house.
6. Always wants to go for outings/ movies with family	6.Now does not want to go out with family members
7.Never craves for any attention.	7. Always craves for attention.
8.Sure of himself.	8.Shows signs of being unsure at times.
9.Exhibit fear if required.	9.They may be anxious but wear a cloak of pseudo confidence.
10.Not afraid of one self.	10.Actually afraid of one self, but do not show this feature. On the contrary, rebuke and ignore others.
11. Maintain respect with elders	11. Lose respect and start answering back at times

WHAT ACTULLY HAPPENS IS:

Now have u wondered why all this is happening?

Dear friends—while so much is going on in the mind and the psyche, u are actually yourself going into unknown fields.

These fields may be fraught with dangers/ temptations/ incentives. As an Adolescent as u are venturing into new areas, you must prepare yourself for the pleasures/ dangers of the known / unknown!!!

Prepare yourself from falling prey to temptations and their likely ill effects.

Do not bluntly walk into a black / dark alley and never venture out alone any where( even if -for a movie-especially young girls)

Any wrong step/ any wrong temptation may result in FEAR/ GUILT/ SHAME not only for yourself so also for the family/ community as a whole.

Do not shatter their faith.

Remember –Parents have reposed a lot of FAITH in you, for it is quite possible that some day your own faith may also get shattered.

Despite Parents willingness, these days to discuss with their kids, the kids themselves do not wish to talk to the family members on such topics .

I do agree some 30-40 years ago, Parents never talked so freely with the young growing up kids, especially on such matters.

But times have changed and so has the awareness levels got so heightened.

Now parents worry for the kids, they want to talk to the kids, but do they listen?

When the young kid enters adolescence, he also starts shifting from a base of OBEDIENCE & SUBMISSIVENESS to a phase of DEFIANCE & AGGRESSIVENESS.

The wings start gaining power, they start to flutter to experiment to fly—-

You thus start climbing/ flying

You start taking a flight

May be a

Flight into the unknown—–

You are at thus age.. but 10/12

You are in middle school and soon into high school,

Soon from PRECOLLEGE to COLLEGE.

You start to experience sense of FREEDOM.

You think you are mature-

You think you are confident—You think you know it all !!!

You think you have reached that stage where earst while Governance n guidance by Parents/ senior siblings is no more required by you.

You thus start looking upwards>>>

You start idolising personalities>>>>

You start charting your own course of life–

You start looking at newer careers!

INFACT:

This is the most vulnerable and very dangerous period.

This is the most confusing and exasperating phase.

The most difficult and mind blowing period of a mans LIFE.

YOU SEE::

A lot of Vistas/ Roads/ Avenues/ Options/ Choices are opening up before you.

This is the time that will determine the rest 40-50 years of your working life

IF:

If you miss the road,

IF you miss the turning,

If u take a wrong bend,

The ENTIRE course will change !!!!

So, Dear friends-

Since this is the most crucial period of your life

Since this may make/ mar your future

I would like to give you a few pointers—-

WAIT & WATCH ——WATCH & WAIT

HOP SKIP OR TAKE A WALK

THINK—THINK—-BEFORE TAKING THAT BEND

IS IT HAPPINESS THERE?

 IS IT A MIRAGE/ OR IS IT REAL??

MY FRIEND–

TAKE HEED- TAKE CARE

THERE ARE TEMPTATIONS GALORE

YOUR UNCLES & AUNTIES

YOUR ELDERS N FRIENDS

HAVE ALL GONE THROUGH THE SAME PHASES OF LIFE—Some may have stumbled, some may have tumbled, but soon they took control of themselves…..

They too learnt from the games they played, the mistakes they too realised,

So dear friends–

TREAD CAREFULLY, TREAD CAUTIOUSLY–

WHILE YOU ENJOY YOUR NEW FOUND INDEPENDENCE-

DO REMEMBER TO TAKE PROPER GUIDANCE N COUNSELLING FROM PARENTS

IF U NEED TO—DO LISTEN TO THEIR CRITICISM/ THEIR ANGER/ THEIR FRUSTRATIONS !!!

 LISTEN WITH UTMOST CARE…TRY TO SEE THE UNDERLYING REASON OF THEIR ANGER—ITS NOTHING, BUT- FEAR FOR YOU / LOVE FOR YOU!!!

DO NOT DEFY UNNECESSARILY.

YOU DID NOT DEFY EARLIER

YOU WILL YOURSSELF, NOT DEFY AFTER 5 YEARS FROM TODAY ( YOU WOULE HAVE BY THEN UNDERSTOOD YOUR FOLLIES)

SO WHY DEFY THEM NOW???

LET ME TELL U SOME SECRETS:

Parents love you, adore you. Parents have enjoyed your childhood days with you,

They are confident that you will make them proud in future.

Infact –while u are confused with so many changes in your system as a growing up adult, they too are confused with knowing not how to tackle a growing adolescent coupled with their own middle age blues.

Despite their rushed curriculum, their race into the future, their desire to accquire more n more for their own kids and family, they still find time for you.

They see you grow up, they love you more as they see you grow into a smart young adult.

They see you start gaining confidence and secretly start feeling proud pf your new found independent stance.

They want to see you pick up the wings that will soon gain strength and more momentum.

They want to see you emerge as a beautiful / smart/ handsome well trained n confident and well behaved young adult.

They want to spend money on your dresses, they want to indulge on your friends, they want you to go for picnics n movies, they also do not now mind your mixing with the opposite sex ( They now know that you are a mature person with a balance mind and know what you are getting into) .

With all this that the parents are ready to do with you / for you—-if you still feel that the Parents are INTERFERING? OBJECTING!! and are a difficult set of people

Just relax

Try and make them your best friends,

They are your best counsellors also!!

Thay will always have your best interest in their heart.

REMEMBER

You as an adolescent have a Right to Complete/ Correct/ Detailed information and knowledge regarding the Biological/ Phsyiological/ Psychological changes.

Complete info on sexuality in human beings.

Implications of Improper / Unprotected Sex (sexual indulgence)

Problems of yourself/ your family/ community in general and before I really n actually end u may wonder—-

Ive been going on n on n on>>>>I have spoken about this n that n that>>>>>

Probably you know most of it, yet do u heed it all????

If u know it all, then I beseech you to take on the mantle of being a good counsellor and start to scout around looking for the young adolescents who are showing signs of uncertainties, create time for them, single them out, or collectively as you may deem fit, and start befriending them and slowly take them into your own confidence. Become their buddy friend and monitor over them.

Biological / physio changes will come n create changes as expected.

See you have to worry about the psychosocial effects , especially in conditions that can cause deleterious effects on the young minds, and spoil the mood/ morale of every one around.

I can probably go on n on on, but suffice to say…

Lets build a strong nation-

Nation building starts from adolescence–

So how many are going to come forward after reading/ listening to me –

Make a buddy– Stick to him;

Mould him -cajole him ;

‘This is BHARAT CALLING >>>A LOUD CLARION CALL TO THE YOUNG ADULTS>>>>>

Jai hind!!!