COMPLEXITY-25th

                                                                              THIS IS LIFE—No 25

1.SAJAN RE JHOOT MAT BOLO

KHUDA KE PAAS JANA HAI

NA HAATHI HAI/ NA GHODA HAI—WAHAN PAAIDAL HE JANA HAI

SAJAN RE JHOOT MAT BOLO——————————————–

2.LADAK PAN KHEL ME KHOYA….

JAWANI NEEND BHAR SOYA…

BUDAAPA DEKH KAR ROYA—BUDAPA DEKH KAR ROYA

YEH KISSA BAHUT PURANA HAI..

SAJAN RE JHOOT MAT BOLO………!!!!!

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I Dr Amita Bahl,

I  am All Of 70 Years And Above—

Agar mein apne bachpan ke bare me bolun–

Meri bala -awasta   –…khud ko pata nahi -kaise niklee,  bas    Ma ka dulaar, Papa ke kandhon pat baaith kar India gate ke  samney sadkon  pe  shyaam ko kabhi kabhi saiir karna yaad aata hai…shayad khoob mauj/ masti, total blossom n  enjoyment rahi hogi–!!

Ladakpan/ adoloscence- woh sama jo na to hum bacche they, na he adult ban gaye they— bas school me jana , thoda padna , bahut zaida khelna—P.T. periods me vya-yaam, aur haan -we had Games periods every day—bahut mazza ata tha!!!

Na to T.V. hota tha, na he Mobile, bus games khelna school me–, ghar aa kar bahar park / ghar ke bahar khuley maaiidaan me. fir khelna doston ke saath–

Andherra hotey he ghar lautna, haath paanv dho kar kapdey change kar ke, thoda padai, thoda khana (dinner) khatey huey family ke sadasyon sang gappe , and the day would   soon  close .

We were a disciplined lot. Got into bed when told to and  sleep would also come  automatically..

 ( being tired from the whole day’s activities). 

 Yes– this was our period of Adolescence ,   growing up and maturing out!!!

I just mentioned—

I am 70 plus ,gone through almost three fourth of my living life, maybe 80/ 90 % would  be a more appropriate term.

They say- 70 is only a no, but fact is , yes I’m inching speedily into my old age.

If I reason out….What have I achieved?

Am I happy?

Do I have any / many misgivings…??

I guess –if I start, I will  not be able to end.

If I sit to  wonder… What happened? Why did it happen?

Is this what I always wanted in my life?

I too, would add more confusion to my already existing status.

OLD AGE starts at  ☹ 65 +++++++ n I am already 70+

The wheel of life has turned a full circle. This is an irreversible progression.  The leaf once shriveled and turned brown will not become green again.

The hairs once greyed will never turn black again;   On the contrary they will only turn silver .

The teeth once fallen will not regenerate again, we will have to replace them with artificial ones now.   Similarly the years gone by, will only be labelled as HISTORY now!

The OLD, the AGED, just bask in the glory of their past and wistfully wonder what now the young ones will do?

WE the so-called elderly lot, who have seen nearly 70/80 % of our living lives —

WE who are 60/70 % retired—what are we really doing?

Generally we – the elderly lot, should be a more relaxed lot, but are we?

We  are  really— a troubled lot– besotted by so many misgivings,  regrets and remorse

If we take a quiz of more than 70% of the so called senior citizens-

They have retired–A small % still forms smaller groups and go for short trips in the senior citizen clubs, and are trying to spend some quality time.

A small percentage are living with their kids, and have their own set of  pros n cons about life.

They want to advise their  youngsters —BUT ARE THE   YOUNGSTERS   LISTENING????

Why is it so important  to understand the Adolescents

 Today?

 Why is it that we need to emphasize  on them alone—- More than any other stage of life today???

CHALO AAJ BAAT KARTEY HAIN ZINDAGI KE CHAR PAHAR KI:

0-13	13-18
19-65	65+

CHILDHOOD:

1)GOOSEY –GOOSEY   GANDER—–

WHERE SHALL I WANDER>>>>>

2)JACK N JILL WENT UP THE HILL>>>>>>

3)MOTEY LALA KYA KHATEY HO—🡪>>>>>>

      THIS IS A PERIOD OF THRILL, BLISS ALL AROUND

ALL ELDERS FONDLE / CUDDLE/ DOTE ON THEIR YOUNGSTERS AND TRY AND GET THEM THE MOON!!

All kidoos just ape their elders, especially their adolescent siblings!

ADULTHOOD:

Children and—– the aged—— both envy man hood ( be it their children/ nieces / nephews)

The child idolizes his ADOLESCENT  ELDER SIBLING  AT HOME.

THE ADULT PARENT TRIES HARD TO PUT BALANCE IN THE MIND OF HIS ADOLESCENT, AND STRIVES TO PUT HIM ON RIGHT TRACK

While The GRANDFATHER wishes him good luck!

So  What is ADULTHOOD Really?

In short::

ADULTHOOD —::::

The Most exacting, most responsible phase.

 Marriage, ownership, settling of career-

 A man who makes a mark in life.

The go-getter age

The builder age

The achievers age

The propagators age

The list can run into miles>>>>>

But wait—let’s ask him – the adult– what he too has to say—???

AAJ KE YUYG MEIN..—

 EK MATURE ADULT PRAYAH:: KYA BOLTA HAI ?????

More often than not—

 “This is the MOST HARASSING time of my Life!

I am always running ,  pacing, chasing into the future—-

I do not have time to enjoy!!

I am, but, a victim of circumstances—

I have just to carry on & on & on—

I only wish—I could turn the pages of history—

If only I could get back my YOUTH-. If only I could get back my adolescence—I would rectify

I would rearrange

I would undo my mistakes- I wish   I had known- I wish I had  heeded my elders

I wish I  had listened to the advice of our peers/ nears & dears–—

If only wishes were horses—then wild people would all fly—–

Why does he say this—

Lets summarise—-

The child apes the adolescent sibling

The adult parent wants to teach him the correct ropes of life

The elderly wistfully watch their adolescent grand children>>>>

If every age n state is turning their attention to the adolescent phase—

We should understand it better>>>>>

So–

Lets now talk of our special topic for today::::: adolescence——

                                                   ADOLESCENCE

To turn the pages of history, In 1999, I once addressed the NCC cadets at the RDC camp.

 From the pulpit to a gathering of approx. 700-800 NCC cadets:

You know –& This is how I began—

Time to sit and wonder

Time to sit and ponder

Time to fathom

Time to analyze

Time to discuss why all of you are gathered here today??

Have you wondered—–

• U who are a few select group of people ranging from 13-19 years of age,
• Who are You?
• What are U? What does the world brand you as?
• What are you collectively known as?

I do not have to give you a name. You know what you are-We know what you are- ‘The world knows what you stand for?

Yes– Dear friends, I shall be talking about YOU——–The teenagers/ The Adolescence/ The future of the country.

But

But before we set out on a ride on to ADOLESCENCE,   Let us first get back to why I have chosen this topic.?

ADOLSECENCE Is the—-

THE MOST EXCITING , YET MOST DEPRESSING

THE MOST EXHILERATING, YET DESOLATING

THE MOST ENCOURAGING YET DISCOURAGING 

THE MOST STIMULATING YET CONFUSING— period of a man’s life!!

YOU MAY wonder—Why I have chosen this topic

Friends –young friends that you all are—I have chosen to talk to You—about  you—-For you.

• You are the intelligentsia of tomorrow
• You are the scientists of tomorrow
• You are the research scholars of tomorrow
• You who are the future NOBEL LAUREATES of tomorrow
• You who are the PILLARS of our future
• You who are the foundation of Tomorrow’s INDIA!

When we construct a new building, we lay a strong foundation—don’t we?

Thus , we want to invest in   you.  You who are our youth, you who are our work force, you who are our strength!!

So dear friends—Do u now understand WHY YOU ARE THE CHOSEN ONE??

While here –you will learn a lot many things—

At the end of this course—you will find that 

Some will bag MEDALS AND LAURELS.

Some will bag shields in the fields—

BUT all will become—more confident than before, all will become more smarter than before!!

But this is also the time to introspect, to learn about your within, to learn about your inner self

You need to know–

Why do  I think the way I do?

Why do I behave the way I do?

Why do I act the way I do?

What is actually happening to me?

So what actually is adolescence????

ADOLESECENT:

This by definition:   Is the stage of maturation between childhood and adulthood.

It also means the beginning of PUBERTY to MATURITY

It’s the time children start functioning from dependence to independence of parents  ( start loosening of the parental apron strings) It’s the time when parents also  have to gradually change the way they relate to /or think about their kids.

Well then dear all, 

Having sensitized you to Adolescents n adolescence being the age that is the MOST–MOST  important stage n phase of a human life.

The maker / breaker… who will later on wonder 

What went wrong n why???

So lets in the next couple of  articles try and understand this very sensitive issue

Wait for me 

I won’t be l-o-n-g!!!!

and Yes, My latest PODCAST on social media on the saem topic u can hear me out there

just a couple pf days.

Im trying out You -tube/ Insta/ FB

Please do research me out there as well!!@@@@@