THE ESSENCE OF LIFE

ZINDAGI  KA  SAAR

GOOD MORNING FRIENDS!

Last week I left you in the  midst of  emotions!!

I tried to introduce what are emotions ,what are the major classifications  and touched briefly upon their types.

How important they are in our life, I really could not emphasize.

Its too large a topic, too brazen a term, and obviously what I wrote was only the tip of the iceberg.

Today I want try and discuss why/how emotions make / break a person, his character, his personality!

JEEVAN

Jeevan in Hindi means LIFE. This is derived from the Greek word_ JEEV   (a being) and correspondingly the word NIRJEEV  (means  without life/ dead)   Jeevan also should not be mistaken for ‘Praan’ which actually means force of life!

Like wise: ZINDAGI

Zindagi is a Urdu word  (some say it originates in the PUSHTO language). Its root word is  ‘Zinda’ which means ALIVE and thus Zindagi means LIFE & Living”.

Lets try to understand further:

THE PERIOD between Birth and death is also called zindagi.

It can be short or long,

Big or small,

With love and merriment, or painful and arduous

All this depend upon a large no, of factors.

Some say Zindagi bahut haseen hai

Some say Zindagi bahut kathor hai

Some say Zindagi bahut lambi hai

While many say, palak jhapak tey he samay nikal gaya, pata he nahi chala beti kab sayanii ho gayee.

Life or Zindagi is as simple or as difficult as we want to make it out to be.

A live incident as narrated by a auto rickshaw driver this mid morning.( he was driving me home from Safdarjung hospital)

I got talking to him about his family size, he said he had three kids (two boyz and a girl). I asked him , why did u not try to control your family size.

His simple reply:

A child is born- a female child in a family of five brothers , seven male children but no female child. They hoped and prayed for a female child. She arrived  !!!!

POOREY KHANDAAN KI  LIFE BAN GAYEE!!!

CONVERSELY yet another episode:

An amusing anecdote: when a girl  was born, she was the seventh female child amongst three brothers.  ( her father & his two other brothers.)

Relatives were unhappy. Some relative said_ there are already six here, why now the seventh!!!

But her nani said… humare ghar to Lakshmi aayi hai!!!

I’m just trying to prove a point:

So emotions change with time, with occasion, with requirement with stage and phase of life.

They help you to create an aura of warmth, Bon hominess  and help in creation of upliftment of MORALE & MOOD of one & all around!

On the contrary if things do not work out to your expectations, if the result is not what was anticipated, you can well imagine the mood , morale, temperament of the concerned individual as also the family at large.

Delusion, anger, fear, tension, frustration, sorrow, it could be one of them, or mixed emotions and many more. There can be despair and gloominess for days to come.

While the topic today is “ THE ESSENCE OF LIFE”   In the above context it has now  gained a new meaning THE ABSOLUTE TRUTH.

Once you understand its meaning and its full implication , ie: you understand and accept the absolute truth &  embrace the essence, life  will start becoming meaningful.

Then, if we say in  simple words,  it should give you peace, make you feel alive and also serve your purpose.  For some it can mean bringing peace to self , to others it may mean bringing peace into lives of others!

For some it may mean gathering love for one self, while for some it may mean garnering love for others!

With so much happening all around us, with so many emotions flitting past our day to day life , with such speed & momentum is the time n tide playing its masterful strokes in our lives …..How does one find the true essence of life?

Just to understand  further let me quote the

The classic author JAMES ADDISION  who wrote that there are “Three grand essentials to happiness in this life”

THEY ARE:

1)           SOME THING TO DO

2)           SOME THING TO LOVE

3)           SOME THING TO HOPE FOR

When all the above three are in proper alignment, your LIFE & WORK will have a MEANING,  it will make you feel alive and help you serve your purpose.  For some it can mean aspiring GROWTH or to touch millions of lives. 

We can thus say that Pure unconditional love is really the essence of life.

Lets try some more: We will have to think deep within.

PURE LOVE vs LOVE

It is important to understand that the love we are talking about is not the superficial emotion that is called LOVE

Emotional love comes and goes, putting us on a roller coaster of..” he loves me, she loves me not”

The essence of love that I’m here talking about is the feeling that doesn’t come ,nor does it go. Its always been there, always supporting us through our journey of our LIFE.

In other words can also be called as PURE LOVE.

A LOVE that loves for the sake of LOVING

It has no desires or needs, It dissolves  boundaries,  It is unconditional, it is kind, compassionate , generous and forgiving

It is given without any expectations.

Pure love costs nothing, to give  or receive it should be spontaneous, and effortless be it loving one another, loving ourselves or loving the world.

Genuine love is a wilful attitude and commitment to the growth and wellbeing of one self and that of the other

A love that is its own REWARD.

What we need to do is to actually open up ourselves,  to find the source of this true love  within us, stretch out and capture it with open heart- arms & head and embrace it fully into our lives.

If PURE LOVE is our essence and is omnipresent, why are we not living it every day?

Why do we feel lacking in LOVE.

Lets take a very simple day to day example: A tv set at home.  Its the instrument that traps the non local TV signals and converts it into the localised programmes for you to watch. Like wise your mind and your body are the instrument that trap PURE LOVE and convert it into your life’s experiences.

However, if your tv set is not working properly ,you get a  distorted version of the program.

Similarly  the stress, the fatigue & the toxins in your mind and your body distort your appreciation of LOVE.

We do not have to run around looking for LOVE, we just need to purify the instrument, purify our own instrument, and allow LOVE to flow freely in our lives., then as the VEDAS tell –

‘The ignorant person dreams of material things

The Intelligent  person   dreams of Enlightenment.

But the wise person just LOVES and every thing then comes to him/her’

This dear friends, is the most complex topic

This Zindagi ka Saar

This ESSENCE OF life

Is simple to write but well nigh impossible to achieve

A man of 90+ may say I have seen it all, but what is the saar of life? …I Do NOT KNOW!!!

A man of 80+::He may be philosophical, may say,_Zindagi dekhi hai. Khoob maze liye hamney. Ab bistar par padda hoon. Kaash who sab kiya hota jo kar na saka….

A man of 70+  young man at 70 today, wants to relive it all. He is mature, heady with experience and ready to counsel every Tom Dick and Harry!

A man of 60+  I have just about reached the Prime of life & understood what it means to live.. why are they retiring me!!!

I am better than most of their 40+

Then its time  of the 50+

He is head long immersed into total cut throat competition with all up and coming competitors, he may be better that most, only his off and on blood pressure or sudden twisting of his ankles (may be calcium deficiency or is it too much cholesterol) that at times make him falter in his fast trot and he has to take a pause many a times!!

Now comes the time for GO- GETTERS..at 40+:::

They are mature, smart, energetic, vibrant vying for the CEO’s post, the next rank, the extra fast pedal, for a larger than life post/ position/ & package. They are running and burning the mid night oil, rushing between office/ gym/ social/ family planes. Trying desperately to strike a balance between them all.

Lets see  what is the SAAR   for the 30+:::

Some have completed their studies, some are pursuing their professional master degrees, some are trying for better n better emoluments, while some are looking for a ideal partner for life: Hope she will be beautiful, smart, accomplished in home chores and professionally competent and while some have struck a balance some are still looking for the ideal….

Where does all this leave us now

At 20+:::

Padai padai padai, complete your studies, pick up jobs as they come /many an Indian young child trying to pick a job to help the father and  augment the family income, some are caught in the web of indecisiveness, trying to mix n match both desires Vs the actualities that he/ his family are faced with.

It’s the toughest time. This is wrought with lots of mixed emotions, and if they do not get proper guidance things can go drastically wrong.

Emotions here need to be kept in proper control. Counselors  (be it from within the family/ outside) will definitely help.  So help should be sought as and when the emotions tend to betray the psyche .

I’m going  to  stop here;

There is plenty to write,

Plenty to talk and plenty to discuss, but suffice to say-

Emotions do need to be under control

For this self control

Discipline

Social ethics

Family issues

Warm relationships with family, at school/ college at work place all play a vital role.

At 40+ some will say..i have reached it all

I know every thing.

At 60+ some will say..

I’m accomplished n arrived,

At 90+ some will say…I am waiting for my call. I don’t know what I have achieved.

Friends,

ESSENCE OF LIFE KYA HAI?

ZINDAGI KA SAAR KUCH MILA????

SOME SOOTH SAYERS SAY..YES MILA

SOME SAY…BAHUT BHAAGA IDHAR/ UDHAR.. SAB MITHYA HAI.

FRIENDS- HOW MUCH EVER WE MAY TRY,

ESSENCE OF LIFE IS – Love

LOVE YOURSELF FIRST

LOVE OTHERS NEXT.

IF U LOVE YOURSELF , YOU WILL WANT TO IMPROOVE YOURSELF, YOU WILL WANT TO POLISH YOUR OWN PERSONALITY, YOU WILL WANT TO BE THE BEST SON, BEST SIBLING, BEST FATHER/ MOTHER,THE BEST NEIGHBOUR AND BEST INDIVUDUAL IN ALL SPHERES, BE IT HOME/ OFFICE OR IN SOCIAL GATHERINGS.

This comes with conditioning, with a decision to adhere to principles that you have set out for your selves, this comes with an intent to succeed as a good human being, if you endeavour to do this: you emote well, you are comfortable with yourself, you are at peace with your self, you pick up control to over come adverse situations that may dishearten you, depress you, or anger you.

Make you strong , more resilient, to over come negative emotions and change them to positive ones with sheer deliberation on your part.

The topic I chose is/ was

Essence of life

Friends essence of life we have to draw a line and firmly believe that we can change the negativism, by perseverance , by conditioning ourselves, by practicing right thought , right action and spreading unconditional love all around.

There is thousands of lines that can be written on this topic, there will be hundreds who will not agree with me, there will be plenty who will have various explanations.

Dear one & all, all big & small, those who are my seniors in age I seek your blessings, those who are younger to me I seek your support

Life is a big puzzle

The biggest puzzle of them all

Essence of life is what & how you want to accept it.

Other wise it is easy to say

Zindagii ka saar

Kuch nahi

SAB MITHYA HAI

IS IT?

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